Torture by Triangulation

My reply to the question from the reader: My initial thoughts are that he is obviously charming enough to be attractive, he seems very egocentric, and he is not above abusing close relationships but will still make the minimum amount of effort to maintain those relationships so they will be available for further abuse milking the cow instead of slaughtering. Growing up in a hard environment does not make him less likely to be a sociopath, but more so. The fact that he stood up for a kid being beaten up could go either way, but I think it argues more in favor of sociopath. Sociopaths and narcissists both have a grandiose self image, have a low fear response, and are in need of excessive amounts of stimulation. It’s hard to diagnose sociopaths secondhand, and even more difficult to diagnose sociopaths thirdhand firsthand would require intimate knowledge of thought processes that only the suspect himself would have access to , but it is not unlikely that your boyfriend is a sociopath or narcissist. The two are very difficult to distinguish based on outside observation alone. Like a dolphin and a shark, they may generally look the same and act the same, but they come from quite different patterns of interacting with the world.

How to Spot a Sociopath (with Pictures)

Dear Linda Sad to say that you are describing my life and husband! Wish me luck and blessings as I begin to set myself free to start a new life of peace and love! Freedom to spread my own wings and see where I can fly. May 9, at 3: In the middle of the divorce right now.

Editor’s note: A Lovefraud reader who calls himself “Fly” posted the following comment on August 7, It is a great description of dysfunctional behavior in a .

Sociopathic tendencies or full-blown sociopath? What does it mean to say that someone has sociopathic tendencies, versus full-blown sociopathy, and does the difference even matter? The simple answer is that someone with sociopathic tendencies will exhibit sociopathic behaviors and attitudes sometimes, while elsewhere he may seem to possess and, in fact, may possess a somewhat genuine if limited and unreliable capacity and desire to respect others.

In my experience, to identify that you are involved with a partial versus full-blown sociopath is not grounds for optimism. He is no less treatable or curable for the comparatively inconstant expression of his sociopathy. In some respects it may be more disconcerting to be involved with a partial sociopath than a full-blown one. I want to stress this very carefully: There is the strangest, most jarring mix of humanity in her personality, a capacity for generosity, yet alternating with a historical pattern of cunning, lying behaviors and a chilling capacity to comfortably disown remarkable abdications of responsibility.

She has exhibited these dizzying, confusing qualities in her relationship with me. She has lied to my face countless times and produced fantastic, absurd, and obviously specious explanations for behaviors that someone fully unsociopathic would feel anxious and embarrassed to assert. When confronted with her dissimulation, she conveys and seems to feel little to no shame, just the knee-jerk inclination to perpetuate and elaborate the deceptions.

Ultimately she lacks either the willingness, or capacity, to truly own the varieties of ethically dubious, sometimes alarmingly irresponsible behaviors that continue to sabotage her otherwise seemingly considerable potential. She is a complex person, a very attractive and seductive individual, and I believe she possesses a dimension within her characterized by seemingly real generosity. She will never change.

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Controlling Sociopath The most important thing to a sociopath is control. They feel the need to control the person that they are with. If they did not have control, they would not be able to manipulate you. Compulsive lying, to mislead you, to enable a false sense of trust. He has the upper hand if he can lead you into a false sense of security. Keeping a very close eye on his latest victim.

May 30,  · How to Deal With a Sociopath. In this Article: Understanding a Sociopath Communicating Effectively Protecting Yourself Community Q&A Sociopaths come off as charming and personable, but once you get to know them their true personalities are revealed.

We weigh in on the mental health of public figures. Sociopathy is captured by the diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder. Nor are they always so easy to identify in the day-to-day. Below I list several of these, as well as what the criteria are for these disorders. And it will certainly help you to be more accurate when you weigh in on public figures on social media.

Thus, their offenses may be less frequent, less severe, or at least you may be able to give some feedback if this person is a partner, friend, or family member. With regard to the latter, there is a good chance that the person in question will not to be able to do too much with your feedback, but if they value your relationship, a less impaired person should be able to, once calmer, work with you to a degree.

Thus, even a person with a number of problematic traits can present as very charming, thoughtful, and competent. In fact, they can be extremely skilled at getting you to help them out or do their bidding, take responsibility for their errors or insults, and the like.

6 Clear Signs You Are Dating A Sociopath!

Get ready to crush his facade before it’s too late. By Livingly Staff on. How many of you ladies actually trust your instincts when it comes to dating?

 · How To Avoid Dating a Sociopath in 10 Simple Steps Although anyone who has ever caught a late-night episode of Dexter may disagree with me on this point, the majority of sociopaths aren’t vigilante serial ://

Not all sociopaths are the obviously deranged, twisted social outcasts you see on the big screen. No, most sociopaths are much more subtle — and charming. In reality, a sociopath is much more likely to be someone you fall in love with at work or a party than someone who chases you down a dark alley with a knife. They know what they want and they know how to get it. Cracks quickly begin to show in a relationship with a sociopath. And what are those cracks? When you first meet one, it might seem like they just get you.

The two of you appear to see eye-to-eye on so many things. They might even verbalize that and degrade you with mean remarks. A sociopath gives nothing away for free. Every flower, every necklace, it all seems to come back up once the honeymoon stage is over. But most people are able to discuss their romantic past with maturity. They idealize someone, then they devalue and, finally, discard them.

7 Warning Signs You’re In A Relationship With A Sociopath

Friday, January 9, How to fight a sociopath — and win! A book like that would be an instant bestseller. If you figure there are 50 million sociopaths in the world and every one of them knows about people, that’s It seems like most empaths can’t tell how to spot a sociopath, so you go reading all these books and looking at all these websites purporting to tell you how. The problem with those sources is that they may be have some valid information, but they’re about as useful as a book about becoming a millionaire.

Maybe some of those methods would work with some empaths looking for some sociopaths some of the time, but there is no surefire method.

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An online public users support group for victims of psychopaths or sociopaths How to Deal With a Psychopath Hopefully, prior to reading this document you have adequately discovered that you are dealing with a genuine psychopath. Diagnosis can be difficult… Why? Because chances are, you are a genuinely good person who believes the best about others, and it is hard to imagine that this person, the one you trusted, is not who you thought he or she was.

Most psychopaths move through life undetected. No Contact First things first: You must cease to have contact with the psychopath. This is easier said than done. Of course the complexity of cutting ties with a psychopath depends on the severity of your involvement with him or her. If your relationship was somewhat casual, then breaking ties may be easier.

How to Recover From a Sociopathic Relationship

He has been seeing a therapist for about 3 years and is careful to stay on top of his routine. Please keep in mind that I just recently starting learning about sociopaths and their traits as well as just recently started studying him and looking for indications. I did notice a few traits that until recently I didn’t know were markers for sociopathy. For example, he never shows any real emotional response to many things, his reactions are always dry and hollow as if he’s just going through the motions.

He can manipulate people, at first I thought maybe he just had the gift of gab and knew how to negotiate because of his job he’s an electrician and often negotiate his estimates and contracts as I paid closer attention I noticed that it’s not just that he is good at negotiating, he is actively convincing the other person that it is in their best personal interest to do what he wants.

OK, so he hasn’t killed anyone (that you know of) yet, but there’s definitely something a little “off” about him. If he’s constantly inappropriate in front of your parents and all of your friends hate being around him, he may be a ://

Granted, those are women sharing their experiences, however to be fair, men are experiencing a lot of this as well. Do you find yourself, much like Alice In Wonderland, attempting to peer into or jump through the looking glass, desperate for answers, while the man in your life seems to care less? I get a lot of questions posed to me from the post referenced above. When men behave peculiar towards women, women have a tendency to blame themselves.

This is not Prince Charming gals, this is a man waving a giant red flag in your face. How could he be? He wants to hurry this process along so he can get in and get out just as quickly. He’ll compliment you, he’ll act as if he’s really interested, he’ll communicate regularly and with gusto in the early stages and he’ll come on very strong at first, speeding things right along. So fast that you’ll never see it coming. This guy is emotionally immature and lacks the social skills necessary to interact in a genuine manner — so he fakes it.

Be very leary of the man who is all too ready to commit. Takes My Number, Gives Me His, And Doesn’t Call I see this one alot because too many women are the pursuer these days and it has led to a whole new generation of lazy men when it comes to dating.

What is a Sociopath (with pictures)

Email What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset. As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams.

Donald Trump displays “so many of the traits of a sociopath”, a cable news commentator has claimed. Donny Deutsch, an advertising executive, avowed Democrat and former talk show host, appeared to.

Idealize, Devalue, Discard The predictable yet completely unexpected and devastating pattern of a relationship with a psychopath involves three stages: Idealize, Devalue and Discard. These relationships start out like heaven on earth…but end in a place worse than hell. Through manipulation, the psychopath takes control of you and the relationship. The psychopath lures you with charm, attention, flattery, and other covert emotional manipulation tactics.

There will be many verbal declarations of appreciation and of their feelings about you and all your wonderful qualities, and amazement at all the things you have in common or at how lucky you both are to have found each other. The psychopath is not able to bond with another human, but he is good at getting another to bond to him. This is known as the psychopathic bond. The idealization stage creates that one-way bond, which is what makes you vulnerable to the manipulation and abuse that will follow.

Even if the psychopath is, at the outset, genuinely attracted to you which is possible , they will end up devaluing and abusing you. Manipulative tactics are put into play to gain power and control. You become conditioned, like a rat in a cage. Fearful of losing that completely, you go into denial and tolerate increasingly worse behavior. Learn about these tactics so you have a better chance of recognizing them in the future.

5 Different Types of Liars

As I explained in Part 1 of this two-part series, sociopaths can have some of the most hidden and dangerous personality features. The DSM-5 lists 10 criteria for diagnosing antisocial personality disorder 1 ASPD , but it assumes you have professional training and a lot of information about them. They are similar terms when it comes to the ordinary, untrained person who just wants to protect himself or herself.

This post focuses on a few of the hints that they may give you, at your first or first few encounters with them. Don’t be a target for a sociopath. This may or may not involve breaking the law.

 · 10 Warning Signs That You’re Dealing With a Sociopath, Narcissist, or Psychopath. 10 Warning Signs That You’re Dealing With a Sociopath, Narcissist, or Psychopath. 14 Ways to Know If You’re Dating a Psychopath, Sociopath, Or Narcissist. 6, Unraveling PTSD after Narcissistic ://

Recently the subject of guys and breakups came up and Sabrina and I went back and forth about what guys generally go through when they breakup. Simple enough to say, but I know plenty of women will talk about how some guy came off like an insensitive jackass after the relationship fell apart because of his actions post-breakup. If a guy is profoundly obnoxious or terrible after a breakup, it is most often a testament to how rough the breakup was on him.

Some people cope by lashing out. Jerry Seinfeld once said that breaking up a relationship needs to be like taking off a Band-aid — One motion: In the same regard, when a relationship ends, it is much much harder for a guy to go back and discuss and revisit and talk through and explain, etc. Personally, I have had breakups where I pretty much went cold.

I wanted her to be OK, I wanted good things for her in life, but I knew that nothing was going to make the situation better. No discussion was going to fix things, no clarity was to be had — it would have just been an emotional toilet for both of us. I realize it probably came off jerky, but when I cut off communication, my heart is in the right place. But what about the guy that immediately gets into a new relationship?

This could be for a few reasons. It has its cost though and eventually devolves into a crippling neediness.

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